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Unfortunately, in school we were never taught any relationship skills. We took sociology, but we never got to take a class on repairing relationships or how to get your ex back. Yet we need relationship skills all the time as adults, sociology not so much, right?

However, there is a lot of relationship intelligence that can help us to win back an ex. A Deep Apology will often resolve the issue. Not just saying “I’m sorry,” but really apologizing effectively. If you can do this, you can get past hate and hurt in short order oftentimes.

If your relationship ended because you did something wrong or hurtful to your ex, then a Deep Apology is a skill that can work for you. It won’t always work, but it can start the forgiveness process. But how do you apologize in a way that can get them to forgive you?

A powerful apology begins with “confessing” what you did wrong. Admitting it straight up. “I cheated on you and it was wrong.” This is manning up to what you did. This is being responsible for it. Say what you did that hurt them and don’t give a hundred excuses or defenses. Just own up to it.

Once you have done this, you are well on your way to forgiveness. When we fight with other people, when we hurt them, before they can forgive they need to understand that we recognize the problem. If you say “I cheated on you and I know this hurt you deeply,” your ex will at least know that you understand basic human feelings. It is a powerful start.

The next thing to do when making a deep apology is to let them vent. Get them to talk and get feelings off their chest. Ask them how they feel about what you did wrong. Get them to speak up and vent their hurt feelings. This can make all the difference.

Venting is a key to forgiveness. Their heart is full of angry, hurt feelings towards you, covering over their love for you. When they vent, they begin to release these negative feelings. This makes room in their heart.

Hopefully, then, you can get them to shout at you for several minutes. This is a good thing! By getting angry and yelling, they are releasing the negative emotions, rather than holding on to them. It is like a glass full of murky fluid being emptied. Then they have room to love you again! There is more to the process of a deep apology, but this is a good beginning!

You can learn more about this and the other Immediate Reconnect Strategies to get your ex back in a no charge e mail course about Win Back My Ex. Joanie S Angel teaches relationship skills and you can get more intelligence on getting your ex back here at Get Ex Back.